I’m not a very organized person. Fortunately, my life is pretty simple. I go to work Monday through Friday, spend Saturday doing the things that I haven’t gotten to Monday through Friday, and go to church and rest on Sunday. It may seem ridiculously simple, but it’s nonstop. The things that I didn’t get to today will crowd into tomorrow and tomorrow already has plenty in it.
I don’t consciously form routines, but I get used to things really quickly. This can be good or bad. Not much bothers me. I moved into my house in November and I’m just now finding places to put all my things. And not having enough storage makes me frustrated with the things I own and makes me want to purge.
When there’s a lot of chaos, I start thinking about Minimalism. It’s an alluring concept. Keeping only the most beautiful, the most useful, the happiest of items. Streamlining life. Creating an atmosphere of simplicity and tranquility. Does that sound amazing? It always sounds amazing to me. But I also know that for me it would be a reaction away from something else – minimalism as an act of frustration.
My stuff isn’t the problem. My bad attitude towards what I own is the problem. That also seems ridiculously simple, but it’s usually not the first conclusion I come to. When there is a pile of clothes on a chair (because there isn’t room in the closet), the clothes are not being insubordinate and stubborn. Even if there isn’t a pile of clothes on the chair, there’s always going to be something that isn’t perfect.
Life is complex and chaotic. It isn’t a bad idea to build your home into a haven of peace, but the peace needs to start internally. If I start with the externals and ignore the unrest in my soul, a minimal Scandinavian design aesthetic won’t calm me down.
I tried outfits inspired by minimalism this week – neutral colors, simple designs. Here are a few things I learned through the week:
- I really missed my bright colors. A bright print top with jeans takes just as much effort as a black t-shirt and jeans, but it makes a big difference in how I feel.
- I found myself accessorizing more than usual. If I’m rushing out the door, which is pretty much every day, earrings are my last priority. But this week, earrings became a much higher priority, because they seemed to make my outfits more interesting and complete.
- I kept hoping that simple clothes would make my life more simple. I’ve heard about “decision fatigue” and how cutting down on the amount of decisions you make frees up your brain to make other decisions. But I still had to make clothes decisions (i.e. do these jeans make my rear look good / does this top need a camisole / do I need a jacket), so it didn’t noticeably simplify my life.
- This was a tired and emotional week for me. I’ve recently taken on more hours and more responsibilities at work and I think it caught up with me. The change was welcome, because I really love my job! But I’ve been struggling a little bit to try and re-balance everything around the edges. (Including the daily outfit pictures and this blog.)
- I just bought two Ikea cabinets and I CAN PUT ALL MY CLOTHES AWAY AT THE SAME TIME. Life is good. If your stuff is too big for your space, find some more space or give away some of your stuff. I should have done this months ago.
- I love my little black dress. It’s comfy and pretty and simply the best. I want to wear it every day.
- I realized I want to take a summer vacation from the blog while I figure out how to re-balance everything. I’ll write next week, but there will be blog silence for about a month. Don’t worry – Ashley Tries will try again. This blog has been so good for me and all the feedback has been amazing. A huge thank you to every single one of you who reads these posts. I appreciate you!
- It’s okay for life to be complicated as long as my soul is simple. If I’m trusting God, it doesn’t matter what life throws at me. As long as my attitude towards what I own is gratitude and not frustration, it’s a good place to start.